Testimonies of Life

Encouragement for a God-Centered Life

October 18, 2017

Hard Times, Why We Have Them

The Why’s

When going through something difficult, we always tend to sit back and wonder why. Why did this happen? How did I get here? Why did I do those things? What was I thinking? Where do I go from here? Where is God?

I think you get the point.

Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.



Where do you turn when hard times hit? That is the question we need to ask ourselves. The best choice is to seek God first in all things.

Matthew 6:33 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

My Hard Times

I’ve found myself is hard times more than once, however each time has been a different answer. Sometimes I don’t even know if that answer came from God or from myself. There is always someone else who has it harder or who has been through the same thing as you. If you can connect with people who have gone through similar obstacles and are now leading a better life, reach out! Don’t be afraid to ask them to share their experience. If they choose not to, then move on to someone who will.

Things I’ve been through;

– childhood divorced parents

– childhood I witnessed the death of a young boy

– Young love (married a manipulative man at 20, received restraining order to separate, he verbally, physically and mentally abused me, held a gun or knife to my head several times, cheated on me, said nasty things to me, coerced me)

– Rape

– Alcohol and sex abuse

– unwed mother (twice)

– financial instability

If you have been through any of these things also, or are going through anything now, let me know. If I can help point you in a direction that will take you where  you need to be or just listen to you if that’s all you want, I hope you will reach out. See below.


Today, I’m 36, single mother to two wonderful children. My son is 12 and I have shared custody with his father. My daughter is 4, no father involved, she has cerebral palsy and epilepsy with feeding issues since birth. They are such amazing blessings! My kids are my world right now. I’m also a full-time employee and have two businesses on the side that I’m doing part-time.

What is your story?

What is it that brought you here to this site?

Do you seek to understand your own tribulations?

When hard times hit, do you spend time wallowing in depression or lashing out in anger or fear? (I’ve done both)

Pray first. Seek His voice. (I have to remind myself daily.) We are not separate from hard times. They must happen in order for God’s work to be fulfilled.  Find the joy in all you do. Seek others as company but be sure they have a higher joy than you to help lift you up.

Please feel free to reach out to me as well. You can email me at tiffiny@testimoniesoflife.com.  I will get back to you at my earliest opportunity.  Praying for all affected by troubles.

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