Kicking the Complaining Habit
Kicking the Complaining Habit!!!
7 Steps to kicking that nasty habit of complaining (Yes, I had to do this too!)
1. Dwell only on what you can change
If you cannot change it, you cannot allow yourself to be burdened by it. You cannot change someone else, but you can change yourself. You may not be able to change your situation right now, but you can try and find ways to make it better.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 ESV
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
2. Give Thanks to what you have
Find what you have in your life to be thankful for. Even if you have to dig deep. Take time to sit and think about what you have that provided comfort that day. Make it a habit to keep a post it pad in your purse. Jot down any chance you may experience to be thankful for.
Philippians 4:6-7 ESV
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
3. Think Positive
Easier said than done, I’ll tell you it took me at least a year to change this perspective. Give yourself time. The more pressure you put on yourself the more negative thoughts will consume your mind. Create a list of affirmations that you can say about yourself every day. It will change your perspective faster than you think! Put post its all over your world. (bathroom mirror, kitchen, tv, car etc)
1 Corinthians 15:51 ESV
Behold! I tell you a mystery. We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed,
4. Adapt to Change
Change is such a great thing if you think about it. It means that we don’t have to be who we don’t want to be. We can adapt to our surroundings or we can choose to adapt to the surroundings we dream of. Seek wisdom in all you do. If you love something, learn about it with all you have. You cannot change what you don’t put into motion. Speed bumps are there for your protection, so next time you are hit with something different that you are not used to, think about what you were doing before that and evaluate how to make it better. We can always improve! Pray and seek God’s wisdom every day.
2 Peter 3:9 ESV
The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.
5. Become more Assertive
Stand up for yourself and what you believe. If what you have to say is not helpful, true or necessary then it should not be said. When someone else is complaining around you, don’t join in. Politely excuse yourself from the conversation after turning it around to a positive nature. Being in financial aid has taught me a lot about negativity and complaining. Complaining is second nature to those who enter financial aid unfortunately. It has been difficult to listen to a lot of what is said both by employees and students. Remember you can only change yourself.
Ephesians 4:22-24 ESV
To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
6. Stop Judging Others
First, this is God’s place for judgment, not yours. Without knowing the full story of what someone else is going through, don’ t judge them for their mistakes, attitude, personality or reaction. I’m still working on my ability to be nice no matter the situation, however I find it is the hardest part of who I have been all my life. I’ve always been around negative people. Realizing this only recently has addressed my issues with my own vision. The judgments that I have said and done have been forgiven by God. If you find yourself judging others, please look deep inside yourself and see what you can do to change that which you may be judging. If someone is in a bad mood, please refrain from being rude toward them. Find a way to be kind toward them. It may be what they needed that day. A blessing can come in the shape of a smile.
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.
7. Be the Example
As Ghandi said it, “be the change you wish to see in the world”. Set the example by being the example. Yes, we all fall. We all fail. But learn from your mistakes and get back up! Don’t let disappointment or bad moods keep you there. By changing the way you react to circumstances you can lead a more positive and fulfilling life.
1 Timothy 4:12 ESV
12 Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.